Tuesday, September 18, 2012

The finger incident

So last night ... we are all doing things upstairs... cleaning rooms and Gary was putting away his laundry and I was cleaning stuff...well Ben started slamming his door... and Madison was laughing... so Gary comes out and  tells Ben he needs to be careful not to slam Madison's fingers in the door... and goes back to his room to put his clothes away...i'm next door gathering madison's dirty clothes to bring downstairs and it happens... the uncontrollable wails.... he somehow got her finger... and it was the worst gut wrenching screams you've ever heard... her finger swelled instantly... and one side had a big red mark  and the other side the skin broke and was bleeding a little... the whole thing got all puffy.... Gary flipped out because he JUST told Ben not to do that.... so Ben is screaming and crying.. Madison is wailing uncontrollably.... I thought Gary was going to beat him! He didn't... he kept his cool but he was so mad...I've never actually seen him get so mad at either of the kids EVER.... poor girl... we decided to wait overnight since it was bedtime to see how her finger looked this morning and it was okay. We think it's fine. Hopefully. 
What is really disturbing is after we got Madison down for bed Ben was downstairs and we were sort of lecturing him about what happened and told him accidents happen but things like that can be prevented, we know he didn't do it on purpose.. blah blah blah... and Ben asks... What if I did do it on purpose.... 




WHAT??? DID YOU DO IT ON PURPOSE???

Ben says no, he just wanted to know... but that's a really strange question to ask...Gary told him if he did do it on purpose then he needs to go somewhere and get some help... he said if he had done it on purpose he would have beat the shit out of him... which really took me by surprise....Now I've always had this weird feeling about Ben...I love him to death don't get me wrong... but when he gets mad... like really mad.... I swear he reminds me of a serial killer... he gets super beat red... and starts shaking... and literally looks like he's going to freaking explode... now he's asking weird questions about hurting his sister on purpose...I was like if you did it on purpose... you're going to have to live somewhere else where people can help you, gary was like yeah, there would be something wrong with you psychologically if you did do it on purpose... and if you did you really need to let us know so we can get you some help. Ben says no... but the doubt is there now.... 


Stressed me out... the whole situation...After Ben went out of the room Gary looks at me and is like What the fuck kind of question is that...I said...I told you... there's something not right in his mind I think..>I wonder seriously if I should see about getting him some kind of counseling or soemthing...I would hate to be that mom that saw things and didn't do anything about them and then one day... the unimaginable happened.... not sure what to do.... maybe I should talk to his doctor and see what she says????

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